Unbeknownst to me, while DJ was eating his cheeseburger, he was making faces with it, taking pix & emailing them. Normally this would have warranted a “talking to” but since it inspired a blog post, he’s getting away with it. When I was a punk in highschool & college, I was mean & I justified it by saying, “that’s just the way I am.” When I was in my 20s and 30s, I softened my edges a little–I learned to curb verbal outbursts, but my mean facial expressions loudly communicated what I wasn’t saying. And then, one day, the table turned. I had three people come together in a united assault & be mean to me. It was so ugly & so painful it whirled me into a year of depression & another year to get out of it. As I encroach on another decade in my life, I hope to leave mean actions, mean words & a mean heart (from which words & expressions flow) behind. I’ve wasted almost half a life being mean & learning from the pain of it. I hope the other half of my life is invested in being kind so that one day, someone might be able to say, “she started mean, but finished kind.” If you have the propensity to be mean, don’t accept that. God didn’t make you that way. We lie to ourselves when we say “it’s just the way I am. God is kind. We are made in God’s image. So WE can be kind. Kindness IS a virtue that God has put in you. Sometimes, some of us just need a lil extra help unleashing it.
Hmmm. They say kindness and love never fails. I still believe that. It is not for everyone…or given to everyone, though. And if they don’t believe it, Yikes.
Hmmm. They say kindness and love never fails. I still believe that. It is not for everyone…or given to everyone, though. And if they don’t believe it, Yikes.
Heather… God on the edge of heaven pointing to you and saying “thats my girl…you see her…yes, right there, there she is!!” God is proud of you and I am inspired by your heart for our DADDY. Our past is history and Bible says the best is yet to come…so bring it on!!!!
Heather… God on the edge of heaven pointing to you and saying “thats my girl…you see her…yes, right there, there she is!!” God is proud of you and I am inspired by your heart for our DADDY. Our past is history and Bible says the best is yet to come…so bring it on!!!!
I love ths post! I, too fell into this trap and believed that being a strong woman meant being a mean one. We have to inspire our girls to embrace their God-given femininity and merge it with His will for us to live our purposes in His Kingdom.
I love ths post! I, too fell into this trap and believed that being a strong woman meant being a mean one. We have to inspire our girls to embrace their God-given femininity and merge it with His will for us to live our purposes in His Kingdom.
I sincerely love this post. Mostly because I love who you are so much. My time in Florida was marked by your kindness, so to hear that this has been a struggle for you makes me wonder at how awesome our God is. Because you are truly kind and have been a good friend to me. Thanks for being open. Always.
I sincerely love this post. Mostly because I love who you are so much. My time in Florida was marked by your kindness, so to hear that this has been a struggle for you makes me wonder at how awesome our God is. Because you are truly kind and have been a good friend to me. Thanks for being open. Always.