In our relationship, il_fullxfull.386958097_d6khRaul has been protective, but I have had the propensity to be possessive. Is there a difference? Yes. Raul has always protected me–he is good about not airing out our dirty laundry to people; he ensures that our home is safe with an alarm system & with getting up when things go bump in the night; and he trusts God with me even though he may not trust others around me. I, on the other hand, have had the tendency to be possessive–I have made assumptions based on my lack of trust; and early on, I tried to keep Raul on a short leash & tried to keep us together, at the cost of NOT letting God do that.  When we take control of the relationship instead of God, we move from “protection” to “possession.” When we neurotically assume worse-case-scenarios and incessantly interrogate or suspect…we are being possessive. People are not possessions, we do not own them–they are gifts, God has shared them. You protect a gift and you understand the gift is not yours but God’s special treasure. The ones we date or marry are God’s. Possess them? No. Protect them? Always.

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