Forgiving is a hard thing to do–that all of us, at some point, have to do. A few years ago, I had to forgive. And now that I can truly say I have, here are 5 things I did to get there:
Christian Counseling. Sometimes the pain is so big, deep and wide we need someone to help manage it.
Prayer. Pray daily for the people who hurt you, because a heart can’t pray and hate at the same time.
Read. “Choosing Forgiveness” “Exquisite Agony” “Total Forgiveness” and “Forgive and Forget” were very helpful books for my healing.
Set a goal. My goal (per the awesome suggestion of my counselor) was to get my HEART to the point where it could say to my hurters, “I wish you well.” Forgiveness does not always mean restoring the relationship but it does mean restoring your heart!
Cry and Ask. I cried and asked God, “Why?” God became my closest companion during that time. I had a lot of tears and confusion. I learned there was NOBODY who could understand, handle and help more, than God.
I hope this encourages someone today. If you are working through this, I’d love to pray for you as you do. Shoot me an email any time, firstname.lastname@example.org