Fact: we will get hurt by people.
Fact: we will need to work to heal.
Fact: Part of healing is sharing. Question: Who do we open up to?
It’s important to identify the circle of trust you can open up to when you’ve been hurt. NOTE: be careful identifying this circle. I have been guilty of loosely-defining my “circle of trust.” If we go outside our God-appointed circles to share our pain, we end up gossiping with people who aren’t meant to be in-the-know and possible setting us up to get hurt again. So who do we talk to? Remember this: before I say it, pray it. Go to GOD before you go to people. This brings God into it. He will send the right ones with the right hearts to receive your pain in the right spirit. Jesus modeled this when He was in pain. On the night He was betrayed, only his circle of trusted disciples heard about his pain and tended to him. Another thing is when we have been hurt by people, it is good to talk about it. Stuffing it is NOT good! Again, read the account of Jesus’ last days in the bible. He gave the perfect display of expressing (not stuffing) pain. Maybe you are thinking, “But I have no one I can go to.” I have been there. And I would encourage you to go to Jesus and a Christian counselor. I hope this encourages someone today.
FUNK! Once again, a wonderful post. So true on the inner circle. I am one who is very skeptical of human beings. What Pastor Troy Gramling would say often, resonates with me: “The best and worst part of my day is people.” On one hand I rejoice to share the love of God with them and what wonderful things He has spoken into me and onto me and on the other hand, they drain the life out of me, their antics annoy me and I fail to trust many. Some of that distrust has to do with how I was prior to Christ’ love and Spirit. I was a good liar and excelled at it! So I quickly see now the lies of others and them not being of their word. Now in being a truth teller and one who is adamant on telling the truth even if it portrays me in a less flattering light, I am always willing to embrace someone in truth yet much of the time, sadly, it is one-sided. Another reason I am skeptical of human beings, is that I have been there for so many and poured myself into so many and extended myself to so many in the 6 years (come July 3, 2015) I’ve been with the Lord, yet very few (I have more fingers on one hand then I could count people that have done the same) have been there for me. They take and never give.
I remember when the Lord spoke to me on this in two distinct ways. Direct and indirect. Through His Word He showed me how He endured others betraying Him, abandoning Him and quite literally using Him for what they could get from Him as oppose to simply having the privilege of knowing Him. I too am guilty of such a travesty concerning my response to Jesus and yet in His infinite love and mercy I am forgiven. The indirect way was through a profound insight from Pastor Christ Brown. The one time I sought out this “Christian Counseling” proved to be a turning point in my life, the way I would forever view the world and the way I would look upon Jesus as Savior in the midst of it all. He said to me: “We live in a hurting world doing life with hurting people. Expect to get hurt.” It was a mind bomb! It literally annihilated the chip on my shoulder I carried concerning some people who took advantage of my kindness and it further fueled my desire to draw near to others who were in need despite any lack of reciprocation on their end in the immediate or when I was in need. I would forever draw near to them no matter time or distance between my helping them out and them disappearing till the next time they were low and running on empty. I would draw near to them as the Lord Jesus drew near to me and continues to wonderfully do so. Halleluyah!
Your words are a reminder of Ps. Brown’s to me: “Remember this: before I say it, pray it. Go to GOD before you go to people. This brings God into it. He will send the right ones with the right hearts to receive your pain in the right spirit.” It is quite the game changing insight. True wisdom is shown here, no doubt through experiences both good and bad. Kind and hurtful. So I thank you for sharing your pain and your joy. Your defeats and your triumphs. God be praised for bringing you through them all and continuing to bring you through them until you are called back home into His warm embrace forevermore. Amen.
I posted your words I quoted above on my Instagram account (hello_im_flavio) as a game changing quote. The Lord bless you and continue to multiply His blessings in you and upon you and your entire family and ministry.
As always…YOU ARE LOVED.
– Flavio
“Into My Heart”
FUNK! Once again, a wonderful post. So true on the inner circle. I am one who is very skeptical of human beings. What Pastor Troy Gramling would say often, resonates with me: “The best and worst part of my day is people.” On one hand I rejoice to share the love of God with them and what wonderful things He has spoken into me and onto me and on the other hand, they drain the life out of me, their antics annoy me and I fail to trust many. Some of that distrust has to do with how I was prior to Christ’ love and Spirit. I was a good liar and excelled at it! So I quickly see now the lies of others and them not being of their word. Now in being a truth teller and one who is adamant on telling the truth even if it portrays me in a less flattering light, I am always willing to embrace someone in truth yet much of the time, sadly, it is one-sided. Another reason I am skeptical of human beings, is that I have been there for so many and poured myself into so many and extended myself to so many in the 6 years (come July 3, 2015) I’ve been with the Lord, yet very few (I have more fingers on one hand then I could count people that have done the same) have been there for me. They take and never give.
I remember when the Lord spoke to me on this in two distinct ways. Direct and indirect. Through His Word He showed me how He endured others betraying Him, abandoning Him and quite literally using Him for what they could get from Him as oppose to simply having the privilege of knowing Him. I too am guilty of such a travesty concerning my response to Jesus and yet in His infinite love and mercy I am forgiven. The indirect way was through a profound insight from Pastor Christ Brown. The one time I sought out this “Christian Counseling” proved to be a turning point in my life, the way I would forever view the world and the way I would look upon Jesus as Savior in the midst of it all. He said to me: “We live in a hurting world doing life with hurting people. Expect to get hurt.” It was a mind bomb! It literally annihilated the chip on my shoulder I carried concerning some people who took advantage of my kindness and it further fueled my desire to draw near to others who were in need despite any lack of reciprocation on their end in the immediate or when I was in need. I would forever draw near to them no matter time or distance between my helping them out and them disappearing till the next time they were low and running on empty. I would draw near to them as the Lord Jesus drew near to me and continues to wonderfully do so. Halleluyah!
Your words are a reminder of Ps. Brown’s to me: “Remember this: before I say it, pray it. Go to GOD before you go to people. This brings God into it. He will send the right ones with the right hearts to receive your pain in the right spirit.” It is quite the game changing insight. True wisdom is shown here, no doubt through experiences both good and bad. Kind and hurtful. So I thank you for sharing your pain and your joy. Your defeats and your triumphs. God be praised for bringing you through them all and continuing to bring you through them until you are called back home into His warm embrace forevermore. Amen.
I posted your words I quoted above on my Instagram account (hello_im_flavio) as a game changing quote. The Lord bless you and continue to multiply His blessings in you and upon you and your entire family and ministry.
As always…YOU ARE LOVED.
– Flavio
“Into My Heart”