10850108_586103504853302_1179538586516832819_nI recall a conversation Raul and I had with a group of friends regarding relationships, were we the protective or possessive type? In our relationship, Raul has always been protective.  However (enter, confession), in the beginning of our relationship I was possessive. Is there a difference? Yes. Raul is a protector:  he is good about not airing our dirty laundry to people; he ensures that our home is safe; he trusts God with me; and entrusts God to me.  I, on the other hand, used to be possessive:  I made assumptions based on my lack of trust; I tried to keep Raul on a short leash; and I tried to keep us together at the expense of not letting God do that. When I took control of the relationship instead of God, I moved from “protective” to “possessive.” Furthermore, if we neurotically assume worse-case-scenarios and we incessantly interrogate or suspect…we are being possessive. But people are not possessions–they are gifts. You protect a gift and most importantly, you understand that this gift (another life) is not yours. The ones we date or marry are God’s. He’s given them to us as His special treasure. Love the one you’re with, and protect them for His sake.

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