Sometimes, there are no words.  I’m reminded of Job in the bible. In chapter 2, he’s in the middle of a total life-collapse. He’s lost everything. And although we often use this story to illustrate what his friends did wrong, I want to highlight something they did right. In Job 2:13 it says, “Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for wordimages.”  Sometimes, someone you love will go through something and you don’t know what to say.  Last year, I was getting my hair done at a salon when one of the stylist’s got a call that her father just committed suicide.  Nobody knew what to say, and in this unexpected moment, no one knew what to do. I’ve walked through this tragedy before, and had just enough experience to know that sometimes there are no words. Like Job’s friends, we just need to be there with our bodies, not our mouths. I was led to the parking lot, where the stylist was on the ground in tears. I joined her there, put my arm around her, and spoke nothing.  Words are wonderful, they can encourage, comfort and love.  But sometimes, so can silence.  If you are comforting someone right now, don’t be afraid to just be there. Your silence and presence is more than you know.

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