I’ve written posts for people who mentally struggle but I haven’t written much for those who love them. The following are not tips I’ve applied to myself. Rather, tips who people like my parents, Raul and my pastors have applied to me. I hope this encourages someone.
1) Love them doesn’t mean understanding them. Love them, tell them you love them, show them you love them, but don’t feel that love also means “getting it.” Numerous times, Raul has had to literally say, “I don’t understand, but OK.” I respect that so much and I receive that answer because it is the truth.
2) Consider counseling for yourself. There is NO shame in needing someone to talk to who specializes in the field of psychiatry or psychology. Raul has saved himself a ton of guessing by just going to a counselor to educate himself on my brain.
3) Read! There are so many wonderful books out there that explain, in simple English, the condition your loved one has. Raul has read, “Boundaries,” “Bondage Breaker,” “The Power of the Praying Husband,” to name a few. And I always recommend to people in Raul’s shoes, “The Battlefield of the Mind.”
4) This last point is the most precious one to me. My parents and Raul have experienced some pretty crappy stuff with me but they have never given up on me. My mom and dad have never disowned me and Raul has never left me. I don’t deserve the loyalty, and I’ll never be able to repay it. But I would accredit Jesus Christ in my heart and their loyalty in my life as the two biggest reasons why I’ll never give up!