I have had the privilege of being on Pastor Fred Uhl’s team for about a year now. He has great leadership chops. The 3 attributes that stand out to me is Pastor Fred’s: fairness, humility & pursuit of excellence. Lemme break it down for you: If the leader is fair–he hears all sides before making a call–so the team knows they’ll be heard & in the name of fairness, the right call made. And when a leader gives the team fairness, the team gives the leader loyalty. In leadership, humility is selfless; its antonym is narcissism which is selfish. To me, there is no leadership attribute more like the greatest leader ever (Jesus) than humility. Lastly, the pursuit of excellence. During our service rehearsal yesterday, Fred walked through every single one of Pastor David’s teaching slides with the tech team. He caught a teenie-weenie graphic that was slightly off-center & had us correct it. I was astounded. It was excellence & it was admirable.
In the comment-section, below, nominate your leader. The nomination must be stated in 3 sentences. This Monday evening, the WondHerful panel will determine the winner. Both the winning leader & the nominator will win:
- 2 of my favorite leadership books. One by John Maxwell & one by Seth Godin
- a Starbucks gift card
- a one-year subscription to “Leadership Journal“
Good Luck & Happy Nominating!
For the next 3 Fridays, my friend, Pastor Kory ( @korycassell ) & I will be doing dual book-reviews. I’m looking forward to this for 3 reasons: 1) Kory & I couldn’t be any more opposite if we tried, so the reviews will be very diverse 2) I want to encourage READING 3) we will include a FREE book giveaway with each review. Without further ado…
Kory: SIDEways, RIGHT-ways, BACKWARDS and FORWARDS, from BOTTOM to TOP the runDOWN on “UPENDED” is… Ingenious! With a brutally honest look at current day compartmentalized christianity ‘UPENDED’ offers practical insights into the life of a modern day Christian. Through exploring the power of storytelling, the practice of apprenticeship and the art of listening the authors shed new light on ancient critical practices. A great read for any growing Christ follower!
Heather: My favorite reality show on TV is Celebrity Apprentice. For a multitude of reasons, I think the show’s premise is genius. Which brings me to the idea of “apprentice.” I have never been one. I’ve been an intern, but not an apprentice. Is there a difference? Yes. This book explores the idea of being an apprentice…of Donald Trump? Not even close. Of Jesus Christ. Crazy? Perhaps. But if you are curious about how you can get into an apprenticeship with the greatest leader to ever walk on Earth, this book is for you.
**1st PERSON TO FOLLOW KORY ON TWITTER & LEAVE A COMMENT WINS A FREE COPY OF THIS BOOK**
pleasure – the state or feeling of being pleased
Today, DJ wanted to go for a bike ride. Now mind you, I haven’t done this for like 20 years. Could I still even ride a bike? Why did I have to be the one DJ asked? And why didn’t I have an excuse to get out of it? Well, bike ride, it was. We grabbed a couple waters & threw them in a little backpack & away we went. SIX MILES LATER, we pulled back into our driveway. And let me tell you, it was sheer pleasure! No technology, electricity, distraction or pressure. Just us on bikes on streets. We talked some but for the most part, I had a lot of time to discover pleasing things, like: being on God’s great, green Earth; under God’s sun, in God’s gentle breeze, around God’s landscaping. To sum it up, this bike ride was “pleasure’s” original connotation – “the state or feeling of being pleased.” This summer, I encourage you to find something that brings you pleasure. Sheer pleasure. A lot of times, it’s the simpler things that we used to do. And sometimes? It’s not so bad to return to them.
This week, my good bud Lisa invited me to join her & a group of women for an over-nighter at the beach. This group is one tight-knit, totally fun, godly, loyal, welcoming group of chics. A year ago, when we first moved to the area, right away, Lisa introduced me to them. She’s good like that. And I am thankful she did. These women have been very kind to my boys and I. They loved on us right away. It blew me away how they were so including of us–though they barely knew us. They, and Lisa, have been a huge reason why my boys & I saw our new community as a home with family…and not a foreign place with strangers. I always want to have a point to my posts. My point is simply this: find a good church and you will find good friends. They go hand-in-hand. God would never want us to do life alone. So He gave us His church. And in my case–this amazing group of women IN it. Thanks Lisa, Melanie, Carrie, Cassie, Darlene, Nicole, Julie, Joycy, Kelly & thanks Church by the Glades!
How many times would you pray for something? If you are single, how many times will you pray for a mate? If you are unemployed, how many times will you pray for a job? If you are in a fading marriage, how many times will you pray for a spark? If you are lonely, how many times will you pray for a friend? If you are confused in your parenting, how many times will you pray for wisdom? Since November, I’ve prayed every day for something–that’s approx. 240 days so that’s approx. 240 prayers. It hasn’t been answered. So at what point do I stop praying for this? At this point, I don’t feel I’m ready to stop. The bible doesn’t quantify prayer. It doesn’t give us a list of how many times, based on how big of the need. The bible does say this, “Never stop praying.” As long as I have this prayer, I will keep praying for it. Why not? I don’t believe in wishing on a star. I do believe in God answering prayers. So I’ll keep praying to Him. Have you been praying a long time for something?
Unbeknownst to me, while DJ was eating his cheeseburger, he was making faces with it, taking pix & emailing them. Normally this would have warranted a “talking to” but since it inspired a blog post, he’s getting away with it. When I was a punk in highschool & college, I was mean & I justified it by saying, “that’s just the way I am.” When I was in my 20s and 30s, I softened my edges a little–I learned to curb verbal outbursts, but my mean facial expressions loudly communicated what I wasn’t saying. And then, one day, the table turned. I had three people come together in a united assault & be mean to me. It was so ugly & so painful it whirled me into a year of depression & another year to get out of it. As I encroach on another decade in my life, I hope to leave mean actions, mean words & a mean heart (from which words & expressions flow) behind. I’ve wasted almost half a life being mean & learning from the pain of it. I hope the other half of my life is invested in being kind so that one day, someone might be able to say, “she started mean, but finished kind.” If you have the propensity to be mean, don’t accept that. God didn’t make you that way. We lie to ourselves when we say “it’s just the way I am. God is kind. We are made in God’s image. So WE can be kind. Kindness IS a virtue that God has put in you. Sometimes, some of us just need a lil extra help unleashing it.
The NY Times Bestseller, “50 Shades of Grey,” is in the headlines a lot. As a matter of fact, just today, it was the opening convo on Today’s “Kathi Lee and Hoda” as well as the front page of the New York Times. Since it’s all the jabber, I thought I’d jabber too. People have asked me what I think–and I have based my (non-expert) opinion on: the bible; pastors I respect; secular & Christian excerpts about the book. I have not read the book because in the excerpts (both Christian & secular) it has been described as “soft porn.” That was enough for me to arrive to my conviction. The bible speaks to porn–that I should stay away from it & all sexual immorality. The Greek word in the original New Testament for sexual immorality is “porneo” (which is where we get our English word “pornography” from). Now this might raise another question: what’s wrong with porn? Well, again, I defer to the bible. The bible teaches me that marriage is a sacred union between a man & a woman. The bible says it is TWO becoming ONE. That being said, if I read or watch porn, I feel I’m letting a 3rd person into a union meant for two. Even though this book is “just a book,” it still introduces a third (fantasized) party into my head. And frankly, I just don’t need that. “But Heather,” you might be saying, “my hubs & I could use this to spice things up.” That’s not a bad thought. Yes, we should aspire to spice things up in our marriages. But PRAYER is more powerful than PORN. Porn didn’t create great marriages. God did. God designed sex, sexual organs & sexual fun to fit together intimately, sensually & perfectly under the protection of marriage. Well, I’m gonna end here. I think I’ve jabbered enough. Would love to convo! Leave an anonymous comment if you want. All thoughts welcome at WondHerful! 🙂
When I was about 24 inches, my Dad was 6’4″ & when I needed him, my little face cried at his knee-caps, ‘cause that’s where our heights had us. Until I discovered that if I climbed into his lap & turned his face toward mine, there was something to gain. It was then that his focus was me & not something else. I could see where his eyes were & I knew they were looking into mine. Sometimes, I think we get mad at God ‘cause we can’t climb into his lap. Our flesh is wired to think that’s the only way to be comforted. But a parent’s eyes? A parent’s lap? God does even better than that. When it hurts so bad, God is in your heart. I always thought you couldn’t get closer to comfort than a parent’s lap. But you can. The closest anyone can get is inside your heart. You just can’t get closer than the heart. And that is where God is, And that is where you can find Him, And that is where He will comfort you if you ask Him. Til heaven when we can all sit in His lap, today, let Him hold you in your heart.
Where are my manners? I’ve had WondHerful.com up & running for over a month now & I haven’t introduced you to my VIP Fab 3! Without further ado…
- First and foremost, My Cuban (aka, Raul). Raul has been my better whole for 13 years. He is everything I am not but wish I could be. I don’t mean that insecurely, but truly, he is. Raul is patient, committed, principled, honest, wise, understanding, intelligent & confident–as a husband, dad, pastor & friend. He’s 360 degrees sharp. I don’t deserve him, but I give God thanks every day that I got him!
- DJ. My firstborn. DJ came into this world 9 weeks to soon & spent 3 weeks in the ICU. He started off his life fighting for it & that attribute has stuck with him to this day. DJ is a fighter & protector for justice, his family & good choices. Though I am proud of this instinct in DJ, I stay on my knees praying that it never goes away.
- Andy. My baby. Well, youngest. He is just a delight. Andy & I have bonded on something really cool–we enjoy public speaking. I love seeing this in him. Pastor David & Pastor Fred have been so kind to let him join them on our church stage. It melted my heart to see him walk out there with his lil swagger. I’m proud of Andy for his innate confidence, but I stay on my knees praying it never ruins him.
So that’s my Fab 3. I’d love to know who’s on your “Fab” list. Leave a comment, yo!